Boys aren't complicated creatures. Really. Boys fall into two categories, basically.
1. The boy who is on his noble quest.
2. The boy who is thinking about it.
99% of the boys you will meet aren't worth your time. Why? because they fall into the second category, and nothing you can do will shove him into the first one. When a boy is casting about, all you can do is drown with him. That's fun for some people: the misery of despair and hopelessness ... for a while, but not fun for you.
Conversely, when a boy is on his mission, nothing distracts him from it, and all you can do, really, is hook on and ride along with him, or you can be the stumbling block that does derail him back down to the cesspool of category two.
See? The secret to boys is you. Women are the very powerful, mystical creatures, and boys are, frankly, scared to death of you. Why? One word from you can crush him or it can launch him (further) into orbit, so it's all on you and what you want to do.
Do you want to prove that you're better than him? Do you want to show him that his pride proceedeth the fall and glory in his descent? That's completely in your power. One word, one critical glance from you, and he's done, because it's game over for him, man.
Do you want to see how high he can fly? Do you want to see what he can do in beast mode? That's all on you. How? Support him, encourage him, spin him up, then let him go, and you, and the whole world, will see what your man can do, with you, his woman, behind him.
99%. Not worth your time.
So it depends, entirely, on you, and how you see yourself. Just because a boy suddenly notices you for a moment, along with the football and his buds, doesn't mean a thing as to who you are. Sure, the attention, the flowers, the texts, they're nice. They are hella nice, but who are you in all this? Who were you before him? Who are you with him? Who are you after him?
And who is he?
If he's in his mopey "what does it all mean?"-phase, or his angry "everything blows"-phase, but you see the wonderful human being that he is (because he said 'hi' to you once and asked if you wanted to go out or Netflix and chill, or whatever), here's what I say:
Give him your phone number and say to him this: "When you get serious, when you know what you're doing with your life, when you're taking on something so big, that you know it's bigger than anything in the world, bigger than even you? Call me, and I'll support you in it, but until you get your shit together, until you're on point, don't waste my time nor yours."
A boy is his cause. A boy is this: that he looks at what he has done, and he's proud of the work of his hands. And a boy without a cause is nothing and worse than nothing, because he's chilling, wasting time, trying this, dabbling in that, and he'll drag you down to that, so that you become a nag and a shrew, pushing him to be something other than a lazy lay-about, streaming binge-series, going to work, wasting away his life, and who looks ugly and mean? You.
And you're not. You're better than this. Mr. Right is not going to walk right up to you and sweep you off your feet.
Actually, yes, he is.
But also a whole bunch of Mr. Wrongs are going to come into your life, and you decide if they are in like Flynn in your life and in your heart, or if you show them where the door is ... or kick them to the curb.
So, how do you know which is which?
What does Mr. Right look like?
He looks exactly like the kind of man you have absolutely no time for. He'll infuriate you, he'll annoy you, he'll frikken stalk you like a psychopathic serial killer, he'll push your buttons and tell you why he can't stand you, ...
Then ask you to be his partner, his helpmeet, on his noble quest of life.
Then you have a choice. You can say 'no' because it's not how you see your life, and watch him walk, and marry the very next girl in two months, knowing you let that elusive good man get away.
A sparkly rainbow-unicorn, but you didn't see it, because he's weird, does crazy things, and wears blue jeans and plays catch with his dad, still, and you missed it.
Or you can say: "give me some time." And watch him walk. Because your "I need to think about it" translates in his mind to 'no.' What do you need to think about? What assurances do you need to reflect on by yourself? If you don't involve him in your "I'll think about it"-process, you've lost him, because you either with him, together, on this thing, or your not.
Or you can say: "we need to talk this through," and watch him say 'okay,' but then honestly talk about it. Or watch him throw a temper-tantrum, saying that all girls do is talk-talk-talk, then weigh what this means to you. Is it worth the time of day to explain to him that boys leap, but girls process, and they process by talking, and are you worth it to him for him to process along with you.
Or you can say: "Yes," and then fasten your seatbelt, honey, because saying 'yes' and saying 'I do' is the start of your happily-ever-after that you have to work hard at, every day, to make happen.
Boys are really simple. They are either tilting at windmills or a growing potato on the couch, neither fits into your expectations of what you want for you life. Boys aren't girls: yeah, boys are weird. Boys don't understand girls: in fact, boys are straight-up scared to death of girls.
It's all up to you, then, honey, to pick the one you can live the rest of your life with, and then it's up to you to support him in good times and in bad, and be happy with the choice that you made.
Tuesday, May 9, 2017
Wednesday, October 12, 2016
Thank You for today. Thank You for others helping at work today so we could make progress on a stymied administrative issue. Thank You for the nurses today who helped me at cardiac rehab. Thank You for them doing their duty and having patience with me, their patient, particularly Isabelle.
Please bless the Adorers who adore You, particularly those who have birthdays this month or TODAY! AHA! Please You I pray for the doctors being pressured into defending the right to life, particularly those who are asked to perform abortions, that scourge! Please watch over James' grandma. Please watch over those on twitter, and please guide those who have lost their way to look up and to find You, their Way. Please watch over Jane as she does her duties in caring for others and please heal her knee. Please preserve us all from the fires of hell and lead us home to You.
I ask all this in the Name of Jesus.
Wednesday, October 5, 2016
THANK YOU for today, and for miraculously making the many things come together as they did.
I pray for my boss, Catherine Thomas, as she pulls together my itinerary for the Graph Connect in San Francisco next week. I pray for my boss, Venkata, as he works through all the issues to deliver our Gov't customer an useful and helpful product for them. I pray for my family, working so hard to be so active in the community: striving to make St. Michael Youth Group work, Madam's ballet, speech and debate, Atrium/Catechesis of the Good Shepherd, Carpenter's Shelter/soup kitchen. Diane, Elena Marie, and Isabel do so much, every day, giving themselves so freely. Please help me see this in them and love them more and better...
LOVE THEM MORE BETTER! AHA!
I pray for all my tweeps, adding my prayers to theirs as I pray for their special intentions.
I ask all these things in the Name of Jesus.
AMEN and AMEN!!
Wednesday, September 28, 2016
Tonight I pray for Mama McLaughlin's soul and for Paisley Hayes' two teens and Michael Mbugah prays that the Blessed Virgin Mary pray he never depart from her Son. I pray for li'l Iz on her 13th birthday that she continue to grown strengthened in Christ. I pray for my sister, Beki, on her 47th birthday today, that she remain consoled in Your Peach and Love. I pray for my Dad who had another birthday this month, in thanksgiving for his love and well-being; he's going to outlive me, isn't he, LORD, the old coot! AHA!
I pray for my family's grace and happiness, and I pray for strength that I may continue to provide for and to protect them.
I ask all these things in the Name of Jesus.
Wednesday, September 21, 2016
Tonight I pray for a dear friend, Tom of Janie, for Julie's Aunt Hope, for Rachel that she find better, fulfilling work at her job, that she be healed from the soreness from her car accident today, and that her sister-in-law have a safe pregnancy and delivery of a healthy baby in March 2017. I pray in thanksgiving for Rachel's safety during her car crash. I pray for Susan and Mrs. L. John. I pray for all my twitter followers for their health and spiritual happiness. I pray for Nora Sailor's Cursillo. I pray for Catholic Buckeye's peace of mind and soul, and for his personal intention.
Today, September 21, 2016 is our 20th Wedding anniversary!!
I pray for my wife, Diane and my children now living, Elena Marie and Isabel Marie and my children who went home to You. And for all to have a blessed, blessed day!
I ask this in Jesus' Name.
Wednesday, September 14, 2016
Tonight I pray for Lucia and her family. Tonight I pray for James' grandmother. Tonight I pray for the Eucharistic Jesus Ministries and the Little Apostles of the Bread of Life. Tonight I pray for my family and friends.
LORD, grant all tonight Your Loving Care, our daily bread, and the peace of knowing we are Your soldiers in Your Salvation History. We may not understand Your Will nor Your Ways, but we place our trust in You.
I ask this in the Name of Jesus, the Christ.